# Victoria Mediation

> Family and divorce mediation in Victoria, British Columbia, and online across BC. Led by
> Rebecca Alleyne, a family lawyer and Law Society of British Columbia accredited family law
> mediator with more than 20 years in family law, who has guided more than 1,000 families
> through separation.

Victoria Mediation helps separating couples reach a legally sound Separation Agreement without
going to court. The same five-stage process is offered at three levels of support, and every
agreement is drafted by Rebecca Alleyne, a senior family lawyer.

Key facts, stated consistently across the site:

- More than 20 years in family law. Called to the BC bar in 2006.
- More than 1,000 families guided through separation.
- 95% of mediations reach a full agreement.
- Four to six weeks from the first pre-mediation meeting to a signed agreement.
- The joint mediation runs about four hours for parenting or financial issues alone, and about
  seven hours when both are addressed.
- Rebecca Alleyne is an accredited family law mediator with the Law Society of British Columbia,
  a family dispute resolution professional under the BC Family Law Act, and a Registered Roster
  Mediator with Mediate BC in Family (Parenting) and Family (Property).
- Isabella Paul is a Mediate BC Rostered Family Mediator, trained in Rebecca's framework, who
  guides full mediations at a reduced fee.
- Services in person at 201-1842 Oak Bay Avenue, Victoria BC V8R 5W5, and online by Zoom across
  British Columbia. Telephone (250) 595-0323.
- Arbitration and med-arb are **not** offered.

## Start here

- [Home](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/): Family and divorce mediation in Victoria, BC and online across British Columbia. Led by family lawyer and accredited mediator Rebecca Alleyne. Free 30-minute consultation.
- [Your options](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/services): Family mediation services in Victoria BC and online: parenting arrangements, child support, spousal support, and property division. Three levels of support.
- [How the process works](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/family-mediation-process): How family mediation works in BC, in five stages: your pre-mediation meeting, preparation, joint mediation, drafting, and independent legal advice before signing.
- [Separation agreements in BC](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/separation-agreements): What a separation agreement covers in BC, whether it is legally binding, what it costs, and three ways to get one: self-guided with Divii, or mediation in Victoria.
- [Frequently asked questions](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/mediation-faqs): Clear answers to common questions about family mediation in Victoria BC: cost, timelines, separation agreements, online mediation, and what to expect at every stage.
- [Which path is right for you](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/mediation-quiz): Free two-minute quiz. Answer nine questions about your situation and we will recommend the right separation support path, with a roadmap written from your answers.
- [Contact](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/contact): Contact Victoria Mediation in Victoria, BC. Send us a question about family or divorce mediation and we will reply within one business day, or book a free 30-minute consultation.

## The three levels of support

- [Mediation with Rebecca Alleyne](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/about-rebecca-alleyne): Rebecca Alleyne, family lawyer and accredited family mediator with more than 20 years in family law, helping couples in BC reach fair separation agreements.
- [Mediation with Isabella Paul](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/isabella-paul): Isabella Paul is a Mediate BC Rostered Family Mediator in Victoria, BC. Full mediation at a reduced fee, with every agreement drafted by a senior family lawyer.
- [Divii, self-guided](https://www.divii.ca): Work through parenting schedules, support calculations and property division at your own pace in one shared file, with the Separation Agreement drafted as you go. Priced per agreement rather than per person.
- [Online mediation across BC](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/online-family-mediation): Online family mediation by Zoom for families anywhere in British Columbia. Same process, same lawyer-drafted Separation Agreement, wherever you live.
- [Book a pre-mediation meeting](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/premed): Book your private one-on-one pre-mediation meeting with Rebecca Alleyne or Isabella Paul, by Zoom or phone. Every mediation in Victoria, BC begins here.

## What it costs

All prices are per person, plus applicable tax, and each stage is priced and invoiced on its
own. You only pay for the stage you are in.

| Stage | With Isabella Paul | With Rebecca Alleyne |
|---|---|---|
| Pre-mediation meeting, each of you | complimentary | $300 |
| Mediation, parenting or financial (half day) | $700 | $1,200 |
| Mediation, parenting and financial (full day) | $1,050 | $1,800 |
| Parenting Plan or Financial Agreement | $700 | $700 |
| Full Separation Agreement | $900 | $900 |

Complete journey, first meeting to a signed-ready agreement: with Isabella, $1,400 per person
for parenting or financial only and $1,950 for both. With Rebecca, $2,200 and $3,000.

- [Full pricing by stage](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/pricing): Flat, per-person family mediation pricing in Victoria BC, in stages: pre-mediation, mediation, and your Separation Agreement. You only pay for the stage you are in.

## Preparing for mediation

- [Preparing for mediation, overview](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare): Everything you need to prepare for family mediation in BC: what to gather, what to think about, what the day looks like, and what happens after your agreement.
- [The four steps to prepare](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/four-steps): How to prepare for family mediation in BC in four steps: what you have, what your options are, what you want, and how you get there. With the handouts you need.
- [Step one, what do you have](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/four-steps/what-you-have): The first step in preparing for family mediation in BC: a full accounting of what you own and owe, why full disclosure matters, and the three things to do before your session.
- [Step two, what are your options](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/four-steps/your-options): Resources to explore your options before family mediation in BC: legal advice, co-parenting support, child and spousal support calculators, and what you can afford.
- [Step three, what do you want](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/four-steps/what-you-want): The most important preparation before mediation: working out what you actually want, and why. Includes the reflection questions and the values exercise we use.
- [Step four, how do you get there](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/four-steps/getting-there): The last step before family mediation: preparing for a different kind of conversation about your family, and what your pre-mediation meeting is for.
- [Determining value](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/determining-value): How to establish a defensible value for a house, a pension, a business or a vehicle before family mediation in BC, and when you do not need a valuation at all.
- [Primary parenting schedules](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/primary-parenting-schedules): Six common primary parenting schedules, from every weekend to alternating weekends with a mid-week visit, with what each is best for and what to consider. Drawn week by week.
- [Shared parenting schedules](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/shared-parenting-schedules): Six common shared parenting schedules, from 2-2-3 to week on week off, with what each is best for and what to consider. Drawn week by week, with roughly equal time.
- [Your mediation day](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/your-mediation-day): What happens on the day of your family mediation in Victoria BC: arriving, the room, how the conversation runs, the agenda, and if you do not finish in one day.
- [After mediation](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/prepare/after-mediation): What happens after family mediation in BC: signing your agreement, child tax benefits, property and pension transfers, your will, the divorce, and enforcement.

## Free tools and handouts

All free, with no sign-up. Nothing entered into the on-page tools is sent anywhere or saved; it stays in your browser.

- [All handouts, tools and reading](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/resources): Free handouts, tools and reading for separating families in BC: the financial disclosure checklist, the communication guides and the co-parenting email template.
- [Financial disclosure checklist](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/financial-disclosure-checklist): Every financial document to gather before family mediation in BC, grouped by what you own, with guidance on how each asset is valued. Free checklist to print or download.
- [Co-parenting email builder](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/co-parenting-email): A free fill-in-the-blanks builder for co-parenting emails. Raise a decision or answer a proposal, with the feeling and need word lists, and copy the finished email.
- [Collaborative communication guide](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/assets/collaborative-communication.pdf): A one-page frame for saying what you feel and need without putting the other person on the defensive, with the full feeling and need word lists. There is a builder for it on the Getting There page.
- [Anatomy of trust for co-parents](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/assets/anatomy-of-trust.pdf): Brené Brown's anatomy of trust adapted for co-parenting, as eight statements two co-parents can agree to.
- [Co-parenting email template](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/assets/co-parenting-email-template.pdf): The printable version of the email builder.

## Articles

- [What family mediation costs in BC](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/how-much-does-family-mediation-cost-in-bc): What family mediation costs in British Columbia: hourly rates, pre-mediation meetings, file preparation fees, flat fees, and what a Separation Agreement costs on top.
- [Separation agreement vs divorce](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/separation-agreement-vs-divorce-what-s-the-difference-and-why-you-need-a-separation-agreement-in-b): A separation agreement covers parenting, support, property and debt. A divorce ends the marriage and nothing else. Which one you need in BC, and in what order.
- [Common law vs married separation](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/separating-as-a-common-law-or-married-couple-in-bc): How BC family law treats common law and married couples on separation: the two-year limitation period, property division, spousal support, and who needs a divorce.
- [Child support in mediation](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/can-you-resolve-child-support-in-family-mediation): How child support is calculated in BC mediation: the Federal Child Support Guidelines tables, shared parenting set-offs, section 7 special expenses, and guideline income.
- [Can mediation work for your family](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/can-mediation-work-for-your-family): High conflict, family violence and complex finances do not rule out family mediation in BC. What does, and how the process is structured to keep everyone safe.
- [Why choose family mediation](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/choosing-family-mediation): Research is consistent: conflict, not separation, harms children. Why Rebecca Alleyne left law practice for family mediation, and what it offers instead of court.
- [Why a lawyer-mediator](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/why-hiring-a-family-lawyer-mediator-gives-you-the-most-efficient-separation-process): A mediator who is also a family lawyer drafts your Separation Agreement directly, so you skip the handoff to a second professional. Why that saves time, money, and conflict.
- [Building trust as co-parents](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/building-trust-as-co-parents): Rebuilding trust after separation is not about becoming close again. Using Brene Brown's Anatomy of Trust, adapted for co-parents, to build reliability and reduce conflict.
- [Protecting children from conflict](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/post/protect-kids-from-conflict-in-separation): Research is clear that it is conflict between parents, not separation itself, that harms children. What that means for how you separate, and how mediation helps.

## Practice details

- [About the practice](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/about): Our family mediators in Victoria BC bring more than 20 years of practical experience, guiding you through separation with a clear, structured and affordable process.
- [All articles](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/mediation-blog): Articles on separation in BC from family lawyer and mediator Rebecca Alleyne: separation agreements, mediation costs, child support, and protecting children from conflict.
- [Privacy policy](https://www.victoriamediation.ca/privacy): How Victoria Mediation collects, uses and protects personal information on this website, including website analytics, enquiry forms and third-party services.