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Your behaviour as a parent has impact on your kids

Updated: Jul 12, 2023


 
 

I think that we've all been told in one way or another that separation and divorce will "mess up" your kids. This message gets played over and over again in movies and television shows. It's a cultural message. But, it's not true.


The research is clear ... conflict between parents is what has the biggest affect on kids long-term outcomes. Your behaviour as a parent has impact on your kids outcomes. Children who witness a lot of conflict will have higher rates of depression, anxiety, poor performance in school. But, those children who do not witness conflict do not. Dr. Afifi outlines the research really succinctly in this short TEDx talk.


I share it with my clients, because I think it's really positive and hopeful. Your behaviour as a parent has impact on your kids and you can plan for those positive outcomes. Your choices dictate your children's future; giving you full control to make this transition a positive one for your children.


In mediation, we always work a little bit on coming up with some plans around making this happen. How can co-parents communicate above the kids, so that they're not feeling conflict and animosity and they're not put in the middle. This type of planning gives you a good foundation to work from so that you're kids can just be kids! Parent behaviour can impact your kids positively ... It just takes a bit of planning.

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