Most of what makes a mediation go well happens before the day itself. This is the whole process, written out: what to gather, what to think about, what the day looks like, and what happens after you have an agreement. Nothing is behind a login.
You do not have to read this in order, and you do not have to read all of it. If you have one evening and want the highest-value hour, read the four steps and gather your documents. Everything else can wait until it is relevant.
What do you have, what are your options, what do you want, and how do you get there. The framework the whole process runs on.
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Every document you need to gather, grouped by what you own, with how to establish a value for each one. Printable.
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Where to park, when to arrive, what the room looks like, how the conversation runs, and what happens if you do not finish in one day.
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The session stage by stage, from the first question to the last. Three versions, depending on whether you are sorting parenting, finances, or both.
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How to get a defensible number for a house, a pension, or a business, how long each takes, and when you need one at all.
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Reviewing and signing, child tax benefits, property transfers, your will, the divorce itself, and what to do if an agreement is not honoured.
Read this ›Mediation runs in person at Oak Bay Avenue or online by Zoom, and the process is the same either way. Plenty of families choose online because it is easier to arrange, and some choose it because being in separate places makes a hard conversation easier to have.
Filling in the Divii form and uploading the documents requested is taking a major step toward an efficient process. It is nearly impossible for people to make decisions in the absence of information. If you leave this out, it will almost always extend the process and cost more.
A pension marriage-breakdown statement, a business valuation or an appraisal takes weeks, not days. Everything else waits on them.
Talk to a lender about whether you can take over the mortgage. Get legal or financial advice. You cannot agree to something you have not checked.
Not your position, your interests. What matters most, what you could live without, and what a good outcome looks like a year from now.
Coming out of mediation, your agreement is not binding. That is deliberate. It gives both of you the chance to take it to your own lawyer before it becomes something you are held to.
The only exception is when you attend with your lawyers and everyone agrees to sign at the end of the session.
A free thirty-minute consultation costs nothing and commits you to nothing. Or take the two-minute quiz and get a roadmap written around your answers.
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