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FAMILY MEDIATION IN VICTORIA & THROUGHOUT BC

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You'll be relieved to have a plan.

Separation and divorce causes a great deal of stress and worry because of all of the uncertainty it brings. There’s a lot to think about, but mediation provides the structure and guidance you need to confidently make decisions and clarify your path forward.

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WHAT I DO

I am both a family lawyer and family mediator and I have been working with families in Victoria and throughout BC for 18 years. As a family mediator, I work with you and your spouse to figure out a plan your family's future and refine the terms of a Separation Agreement.  I help you communicate with each other to make sure you both feel heard, and I help you get through those tricky points of conflict.
 
Because I'm also a family lawyer, I provide you with legal information and guidance while you have your discussion.  I explain things from a legal perspective and make sure that you’re thinking about all the important legal issues and I help you understand the impact of the choices you are making.  When the mediation is over, I will draft the final separation agreement in neutral language for both of you, which can only be done by a lawyer.

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* This video is a bit dated, but still accurately describes the process.  As of 2024, I've been practicing law for 18 years and mediating for 14 years, having conducted hundreds of Separation & Divorce Mediations.

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ABOUT ME

I am a family lawyer and family mediator in Victoria, BC practicing exclusively in the area of family law. Through my practice as a family lawyer, I watched families go through separation and divorce and, in doing so, exhaust themselves emotionally and financially. The adversarial process can be very expensive and time consuming and it can destroy families because of increased animosity and stress.  I did not like the role I had as a lawyer because I often felt that I was perpetuating that animosity and furthering a destructive process.

 

The reality is that parents must continue to talk about their children’s medical appointments, attend soccer games, and sit beside one another years down the road at their child’s graduation ceremony.  Those without children may also be motivated to maintain an amicable relationship.  Any separation process should be able to fairly deal with the legal issues, but in a way that supports and empowers people to transition constructively into the post-separation plan they make for themselves.

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This is why after 10 years of practicing as a regular family lawyer, I quit my job at the downtown family law firm I was working for, and I started doing things a bit differently.  By shifting the focus of the separation away from it being a fight about the past and onto it being about a plan to move forward, as a family mediator, I feel like I am helping people through their separation in a positive way.

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I obtained a Bachelor of Commerce degree from the University of Calgary in 2001 and a Bachelor of Laws degree from the University of Victoria in 2005. I have practiced family law exclusively since I was called to the British Columbia bar in 2006. I am member of the Law Society of British Columbia and an accredited Family Law Mediator through the Law Society of British Columbia. After hundreds of hours of training to help mediate in separation and divorce situations, I became a member of the Civil and Family Rosters of Mediate BC.  I have facilitated hundreds of mediations  and helped many families in British Columbia move forward without a legal battle.

MY PROCESS

Client Feedback

Thank-you for the very thoughtful work that you did today. I really appreciated your overall professionalism and whole-hearted approach. The lunch and treats were also a lovely touch.

 

Although a very emotional day, both (my spouse) and I feel very happy with the end results. You took something very difficult and made it much easier for us. Thank-you.

IS MEDIATION RIGHT FOR YOU?

Every separation is unique and there are different dynamics that can affect whether mediation is the right choice.  

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mediation is the right process for you.

CONTACT ME

Rebecca Alleyne Family Law Mediation

201 - 1842 Oak Bay Avenue
Victoria, BC V8R 5W5

(250) 595-0323

PARKING: There is a Robbins Parking lot on our block of Oak Bay Avenue with a rate of $1/hour.  Alternatively, there is street parking on Oak Bay Avenue and the surrounding side streets.  Keep in mind, our pre-mediation meetings are around one hour, but mediations are generally too long for street parking ... and they do check!

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