Family Mediation Services in Victoria, BC and Online
A Calm, Structured Approach to Family Mediation
Separation and divorce bring stress and uncertainty, especially when you’re trying to understand your options under BC family law. I work in Victoria, BC and throughout the province, providing family mediation that helps you make informed decisions and move forward with clarity.
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What is Family Mediation?
Family mediation is a structured process that helps you make decisions together about parenting, child support, spousal support, and the division of property. Instead of having lawyers communicate through letters or court applications, family mediation allows you to sit down with a neutral mediator and work through the issues directly. It feels more like a planning session rather than a tug of war.
As a family lawyer and accredited family mediator in Victoria BC, I guide these conversations in a calm and organized way. I explain how family law applies in British Columbia, and support you and your spouse in reaching informed decisions. The goal of family mediation is not to win or lose, but to create a clear plan that allows you to move forward with stability and certainty.
Over the past two decades practicing family law, I've spent a lot of time in court watching people navigate the adversarial system. I've seen families spend months or years preparing, proposing, responding, and fighting through lawyers, often at great emotional and financial cost. Even when a case finally ended, most people felt depleted rather than relieved, and the process itself often made future cooperation harder.
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The average length of time it takes for couples to actually reach a separation agreement is about 2 years and can cost an average of $60,000. But, in mediation we're able to do in about 6 hours and for a fraction of the cost. For the most part that efficiency is possible because you're in the same room, at the same time, understanding the same information, and having a real-time conversation.
Learn more about how family mediation can help you create a separation agreement together rather than negotiating through lawyers.
Why Many Couples Choose Mediation Over the traditional Adversarial System
My Family Mediation Process
My family mediation process gives you a clear, structured path through to your Separation Agreement so you always know what to expect. I use a five-step approach that helps you prepare, understand your legal and financial landscape under BC family law, communicate effectively, and reach balanced agreements about parenting, child support, spousal support, and the division of property.
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I’ve refined this process over more than 20 years of family law practice to help people move through separation with clarity and efficiency. The structure keeps you organized, supports respectful communication, and ensures you have the legal information and documents you need at each stage. Whether we meet in person, in Victoria, BC, or online, every family mediation follows the same proven framework, with flexibility to address your specific circumstances.
One Professional Guiding You from Start to Finish
Family mediation works best because the real work happens together, in the same room, at the same time. After more mediating more than 1,000 family law matters, I’ve refined a structured process that simplifies complex discussions and ensures nothing important is missed.
As both a family mediator and a lawyer, I will explain how BC family law applies to your individual situation. You'll look at the same information and hear the same answers to the questions you have, allowing you to build a shared understanding of what makes sense for your family.
Once you have shaped a plan together, I draft a clear and legally binding Separation Agreement that reflects the decisions made in mediation. In my experience, when couples understand the law and the facts at the same time, there is usually very little left to argue about.
In mediation, we work through both parenting and financial matters in a structured and coordinated way, ensuring we address core decisions like parenting schedules, holiday time, decision-making responsibilities, and communication protocols between households. The focus stays on creating clear, workable plans that support stability for your children and for both parents.
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We also address the financial issues that come with separation and divorce, including child support, spousal support, and the division of property and debts. I help you understand the relevant financial information and explain how the law applies, so discussions stay grounded and productive. The goal is to reach fair, informed agreements that provide a clear framework for moving forward.
Parenting & Financial Mediation Services
Separation Agreements
& Legal Support
Once mediation is complete, I draft a clear and legally binding BC Separation Agreement that reflects the decisions you made together in mediation. Because I am a family lawyer as well as a mediator, I can explain the legal implications of your choices throughout the process and ensure your plans are properly articulated in your Separation Agreement and meet the requirements of BC family law. The focus stays on accuracy, clarity, and creating a document you can rely on moving forward.
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Before signing, I encourage each person to obtain independent legal advice so you can review the agreement with confidence. By that stage, the major decisions have already been made collaboratively in mediation, which often keeps the legal review efficient and focused. This approach allows you to complete the legal side of your separation without reopening conflict or unnecessary back-and-forth.
About Rebecca Alleyne
Family Mediator in Victoria, BC
I’m a family lawyer and accredited family mediator in Victoria, BC. For nearly 20 years, I’ve helped families navigate separation and divorce in a way that is fair, respectful, and forward-looking. After spending many years working in courtrooms as a divorce lawyer, I chose to focus exclusively on mediation because I saw how high-conflict processes affected parents, children, and long-term family relationships.
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Since then, I’ve guided more than 1,000 families in British Columbia through family mediation. My work combines experienced legal guidance with a structured mediation process that helps people make informed decisions, reduce conflict, and create workable plans for the future. I draft clear, legally binding Separation Agreements and support clients in moving through separation with clarity and confidence.
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What Are the Next Steps?
If you’re considering family mediation and want to understand whether it’s the right fit for your situation, the next step is a short pre-mediation meeting. This meeting gives you a chance to ask questions, learn how the process works, and decide how you would like to move forward.
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You’re welcome to reach out when you feel ready. There’s no pressure to commit before you have the information you need.
Contact Us
Rebecca Alleyne Family Law Mediation
201 - 1842 Oak Bay Avenue
Victoria, BC V8R 5W5
(250) 595-0323
PARKING: There is a Robbins Parking lot on our block of Oak Bay Avenue with a rate of $2/hour. Alternatively, there is street parking on Oak Bay Avenue and the surrounding side streets. Keep in mind, our pre-mediation meetings are around one hour, but mediations are generally too long for street parking - and they do check!