Family Mediation Services in Victoria, BC and Online
Clear guidance to help you move through your Separation
Separation and divorce bring stress and uncertainty, especially when you’re trying to understand your options under BC family law. We work with couples in Victoria, BC and throughout the province, offering family mediation and other structured ways to help you make informed decisions and move forward with clarity.
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WHAT I DO​
​I am both a family lawyer and family mediator and I have been working with families in Victoria and throughout BC for 17 years. As a family mediator, I work with you and your spouse to figure out a plan your family's future and refine the terms of a separation agreement. I help you communicate with each other to make sure you both feel heard, and I help you get through those tricky points of conflict.
Because I'm also a family lawyer, I provide you with legal information and guidance while you have your discussion. I explain things from a legal perspective and make sure that you’re thinking about all the important legal issues and I help you understand the impact of the choices you are making. When the mediation is over, I will draft the final separation agreement in neutral language for both of you, which can only be done by a lawyer.
About Rebecca Alleyne
Family Mediator in Victoria, BC
I’m a divorce lawyer and accredited family mediator in Victoria, BC. For nearly 20 years, I’ve helped families navigate separation and divorce in a way that is fair, respectful, and forward-looking. After spending many years working in courtrooms as a divorce lawyer, I chose to focus exclusively on mediation because I saw how high-conflict processes affected parents, children, and long-term family relationships.
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Since then, I’ve guided more than 1,000 families in British Columbia through family mediation. My work combines experienced legal guidance with a structured mediation process that helps people make informed decisions, reduce conflict, and create workable plans for the future. I draft clear, legally binding Separation Agreements and support clients in moving through separation with clarity and confidence.
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MY PROCESS
I have streamlined an approach to resolving things during a separation and divorce, where the parties create their own plan for their family’s future with the benefit of having a lawyer guide the process and draft the resulting agreement. By combining these services and doing it together, it takes less time, costs far less money, and is tailored to your family's needs. The whole process is designed to take about 4 weeks and cost a fraction of hiring two separate lawyers.
The mediation itself is casual. It is an opportunity to have a real conversation with the intention to plan how you and your family will move forward. As a family lawyer, I can provide legal information to help you make decisions. I keep the conversation visual, child focused, and future oriented, so that you use your time well.
Of course, emotions run high in during a separation and divorce. I facilitate the communication between you and your spouse without destroying the relationship in the process. The reality is that most separating couples do not have the choice of severing ties with their former spouse. After the separation and divorce is complete, parents still need to communicate about their kids and make decisions together. I hope the mediation will be a solid and positive foundation for moving your family forward beyond the separation.​
1.PRE-MEDIATION MEETINGYou each meet with me individually to assess your circumstances, figure out what needs to be resolved, and discuss what we need for the joint session to be a success. (Book Here)2.GATHERING DOCUMENTS AND INFORMATIONYou need to have a good handle on your situation and your options before you come in to make a plan. So, you'll want to gather documents to share and other information and advice.3.MEET TOGETHER IN THE MEDIATIONIt's really more of a planning session for your family. I will facilitate the discussion and help you make sure you're thinking about everything and considering the law.4.SEPARATION AGREEMENTI will draft a legal Separation Agreement for you. I make sure to use common legal language so that it's familiar to all professionals that read it, and I also write it neutrally to reflect the joint planning you did.5.LEGAL ADVICE AND SIGNINGYou'll get a copy of your Separation Agreement and all the supporting documents and calculations used in mediation. I always recommend getting legal advice before you sign it.
Many separating couples find that traditional lawyer-to-lawyer negotiations can be time-consuming, costly, and emotionally draining. When communication happens back and forth between lawyers, it can be harder to stay focused on practical solutions and moving forward.
Family mediation offers a more direct and structured approach. You meet together with a neutral family law mediator, work through issues in real time, and make decisions with a clear understanding of how family law applies in British Columbia.
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We support separating couples at different levels depending on what they need. Many are able to agreed on the terms of a Separation Agreement in mediation more efficiently and at a lower cost, while still having access to guidance along the way.
Why Many Couples Choose to work with a Family Law Mediator instead of hiring two lawyers
The right level of support to guide you through your separation to a signed agreement
What is Family Mediation?
Family mediation is a structured process that helps you make decisions together about parenting, support, and the division of property. Instead of relying on back-and-forth through lawyers or court, mediation creates space to sit down, have focused conversations, and work through the issues directly.
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A neutral mediator guides the discussion, keeps things on track, and helps you understand how family law applies in British Columbia, so you can make informed decisions together.
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At Victoria Mediation, we support this process with both mediation and, where needed, lawyer-led guidance. The goal is to reach a clear, legally sound separation agreement so you can move forward with certainty.
In separation and divorce mediation, we work through both parenting and financial matters in a structured and coordinated way, ensuring we address core decisions like parenting schedules, holiday time, decision-making responsibilities, and communication protocols between households. The focus stays on creating clear, workable plans that support stability for your children and for both parents.
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We also address the financial issues that come with separation and divorce, including child support, spousal support, and the division of property and debts. I help you understand the relevant financial information and explain how the law applies, so discussions stay grounded and productive. The goal is to reach fair, informed agreements that provide a clear framework for moving forward.
Family Mediation resolves the Parenting and Financial topics that matter most
Separation Agreements
& Legal Support
Once mediation is complete, I draft a clear and legally binding BC Separation Agreement that reflects the decisions you made together. As a family lawyer and mediator with more than 20 years of family law experience, I explain the legal implications of your choices and ensure your agreement meets the requirements of BC family law.
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Before signing, I encourage each of you to obtain independent legal advice. By that stage, the major decisions have already been made collaboratively in mediation, which often keeps the legal review efficient and focused. This approach allows you to complete the legal side of your separation without reopening conflict or unnecessary back-and-forth.
Serving Families in Victoria, BC and Across British Columbia
I work with families in Victoria and throughout British Columbia, providing family mediation that is grounded in BC family law and tailored to the realities of each family’s situation. While many mediations take place in person in Victoria BC, I also work with families across the province through online mediation when appropriate.
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Regardless of where you are located, the focus remains the same: a structured, respectful mediation process that helps you work through the topics of your separation and divorce and make the parenting and financial decisions with clarity and confidence. My goal is to make professional family mediation accessible to families across British Columbia, while ensuring each mediation is supported by clear legal information and a consistent approach.
What Are the Next Steps?
If you’re considering family mediation and want to understand whether it’s the right fit for your situation, the next step is a short pre-mediation meeting. This meeting gives you a chance to ask questions, learn how the process works, and decide how you would like to move forward.
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You’re welcome to reach out when you feel ready. There’s no pressure to commit before you have the information you need.
Contact Us
Rebecca Alleyne Family Law Mediation
201 - 1842 Oak Bay Avenue
Victoria, BC V8R 5W5
(250) 595-0323
PARKING: There is a Robbins Parking lot on our block of Oak Bay Avenue with a rate of $2/hour. Alternatively, there is street parking on Oak Bay Avenue and the surrounding side streets. Keep in mind, our pre-mediation meetings are around one hour, but mediations are generally too long for street parking - and they do check!