Family Mediation Services in Victoria, BC and Online
A Calm, Structured Approach to Family Mediation
Separation and divorce bring stress and uncertainty, especially when you’re trying to understand your options under BC family law. I work in Victoria, BC and throughout the province, providing family mediation that helps you make informed decisions and move forward with clarity.
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One family lawyer and mediator to guide you from
mediation to a signed Separation Agreement
What is Family Mediation?
Family mediation is a structured process that helps you make decisions together about family law issues like parenting, child support, spousal support, and the division of property. Instead of having lawyers communicate through letters or court applications, family mediation allows you to sit down with a neutral mediator and work through the issues directly. It feels more like a planning session rather than a tug of war.
As a family lawyer and accredited family mediator in Victoria BC, I guide these conversations in a calm and organized way. I explain how family law applies in British Columbia, and support you and your spouse in reaching informed decisions. The goal of family mediation is not to win or lose, but to create a clear plan that allows you to move forward with stability and certainty.
Over more than 20 years of family law practice, I have seen how the adversarial system can drain families emotionally and financially. When each spouse hires a lawyer, the conversation often happens back and forth between offices rather than face to face. Many couples spend years negotiating through lawyers before reaching a Separation Agreement, often at significant cost and with lasting strain on future cooperation.
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In family mediation, you work together with one professional in the same room, at the same time, with clear legal information and focused guidance. As a family lawyer and mediator, I facilitate your discussions and ensure you understand how BC family law applies to your situation. While court based negotiations can take years and cost tens of thousands of dollars, most couples can reach a Separation Agreement in mediation in a matter of hours and at a fraction of the cost. Mediation allows you to create your Separation Agreement together rather than negotiating through two lawyers.
Why Many Couples Choose to work with a Family Law Mediator instead of hiring two lawyers
My Family Mediation Process
Over nearly 20 years of family law practice, I've refined a clear mediation process to provide a clear, structured path to your Separation Agreement so you always know what to expect. I use a five step framework to help you prepare, understand your legal and financial landscape under BC family law, communicate effectively, and reach balanced agreements about parenting, child support, spousal support, and division of property. Whether we meet in person in Victoria, BC or online, I guide you through the same proven process with flexibility to address your specific circumstances and ensure you have the legal information and documents you need at each stage.
One Professional Guiding You from Start to Finish
​​As both a divorce lawyer and family mediator with experience mediating more than 1,000 family law matters, I guide your conversations as a neutral facilitator while explaining how BC family law applies to your specific situation. You both receive the same clear legal information and answers to your questions, so you can make informed decisions together with confidence.
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When you reach resolution, I draft a clear and legally binding Separation Agreement that reflects the decisions you have made. Most family lawyers cannot work with both spouses together, and family mediators (who are not lawyers) cannot provide legal advice or prepare the final Separation Agreement. I offer both in one seamless, professionally guided process, supporting you from your first meeting through to a carefully drafted Agreement that protects your family’s future.
In mediation, we work through both parenting and financial matters in a structured and coordinated way, ensuring we address core decisions like parenting schedules, holiday time, decision-making responsibilities, and communication protocols between households. The focus stays on creating clear, workable plans that support stability for your children and for both parents.
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We also address the financial issues that come with separation and divorce, including child support, spousal support, and the division of property and debts. I help you understand the relevant financial information and explain how the law applies, so discussions stay grounded and productive. The goal is to reach fair, informed agreements that provide a clear framework for moving forward.
Family Mediation resolves the Parenting and Financial topics that matter most
Separation Agreements
& Legal Support
Once mediation is complete, I draft a clear and legally binding BC Separation Agreement that reflects the decisions you made together. As a family lawyer and mediator with more than 20 years of family law experience, I explain the legal implications of your choices and ensure your agreement meets the requirements of BC family law.
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Before signing, I encourage each of you to obtain independent legal advice. By that stage, the major decisions have already been made collaboratively in mediation, which often keeps the legal review efficient and focused. This approach allows you to complete the legal side of your separation without reopening conflict or unnecessary back-and-forth.
About Rebecca Alleyne
Family Mediator in Victoria, BC
I’m a family lawyer and accredited family mediator in Victoria, BC. For nearly 20 years, I’ve helped families navigate separation and divorce in a way that is fair, respectful, and forward-looking. After spending many years working in courtrooms as a divorce lawyer, I chose to focus exclusively on mediation because I saw how high-conflict processes affected parents, children, and long-term family relationships.
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Since then, I’ve guided more than 1,000 families in British Columbia through family mediation. My work combines experienced legal guidance with a structured mediation process that helps people make informed decisions, reduce conflict, and create workable plans for the future. I draft clear, legally binding Separation Agreements and support clients in moving through separation with clarity and confidence.
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What Are the Next Steps?
If you’re considering family mediation and want to understand whether it’s the right fit for your situation, the next step is a short pre-mediation meeting. This meeting gives you a chance to ask questions, learn how the process works, and decide how you would like to move forward.
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You’re welcome to reach out when you feel ready. There’s no pressure to commit before you have the information you need.
Contact Us
Rebecca Alleyne Family Law Mediation
201 - 1842 Oak Bay Avenue
Victoria, BC V8R 5W5
(250) 595-0323
PARKING: There is a Robbins Parking lot on our block of Oak Bay Avenue with a rate of $2/hour. Alternatively, there is street parking on Oak Bay Avenue and the surrounding side streets. Keep in mind, our pre-mediation meetings are around one hour, but mediations are generally too long for street parking - and they do check!