Everything here is free, and everything here is used in real mediations. Print the handouts, work through the tools, and borrow the reading. You do not need to be a client to use any of it.
These are the pages I hand to clients. They are made to be printed and written on, and they work just as well if you are mediating with someone else.
Every document you need to gather before mediation, grouped by what you own. Work through the sections that apply to you and ignore the rest. Most people need four or five of them. Five pages, and the single biggest thing you can do to keep a mediation short.
Download the checklistA frame for saying what you feel and need without putting the other person on the defensive, with the full lists of feeling and need words to choose from. One page. I keep it printed at my office, on my refrigerator and beside my computer.
Download the guideA fill in the blanks email for raising a decision with your co-parent. A warm opening, what you and the children feel and need, a clear proposal, and the details to include so it can actually be answered. Two pages, including what to do when the answer is no.
Download the templateBrené Brown’s anatomy of trust, adapted for co-parenting. Eight things trust is built from, written as statements two co-parents can agree to: boundaries, reliability, accountability, family privacy, integrity, non-judgment, generosity and sharing. One page.
Download the frameworkNothing to download. Nothing you type into any of them is sent anywhere or saved.
The disclosure checklist as a page you can work down, section by section, ticking off what applies to you and skipping what does not.
Open the checklistThe collaborative communication guide, built into the page. Fill in four blanks, pick from the feeling and need word lists, and it assembles the sentence for you to copy.
Open the builderThe email template, built into the page. Choose whether you are raising something or answering a proposal, fill in what applies, and copy the finished email. It writes the feeling and need sentence for you.
Open the email builderTwelve common patterns drawn week by week, with what each one suits and what to watch for. Six where the children have a home base with one parent, and six that divide time roughly equally.
Nine questions about your situation, and a roadmap written around your answers. Two minutes, and it will tell you if mediation is the wrong fit.
Take the quizNone of this is mine, and all of it is better than anything I could write on the subject. The picture book is the one people thank me for most.
A free thirty-minute consultation costs nothing and commits you to nothing. Or take the two-minute quiz and get a roadmap written around your answers.
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