Can You Resolve Child Support in Family Mediation

Child support is one of the issues that fits most naturally into family law mediation. In fact, if you're separating and have kids, you must discuss and agree on on child support. Parents often expect the conversation to be tense or complicated, but once you understand how the Federal Child Support Guidelines work, the process becomes much clearer and far less intimidating.

Why Child Support and Parenting Discussions Go Together

Child support depends heavily on the parenting schedule. Because of that, when I work with parents on a full separation agreement, I always begin with the parenting plan. Once we know how time is shared between homes, we can talk about how child support should be structured. If you are coming in only for a recalculation, the parenting arrangements are already known, so we can move directly into the support discussion.

Starting With What Matters Most

Before we look at any numbers, I ask each of you what feels important about the child

support conversation. Most parents discuss things like their wish for their children to feel financially secure in both homes, to stay in their usual activities and routines, and to enjoy a relatively similar standard of living. Understanding these priorities gives us a direction for the conversation. It becomes our north star, and it helps keep the discussion focused on what truly matters for your children.

How Child Support Is Determined in Canada

Child support is the legal right of the child. The Federal Child Support Guidelines (the "Guidelines") govern how support is calculated across the country, and courts expect parents to follow these rules. The Guidelines provide tables to figure out what a payor shoudl pay each month. The tables used in the Guidelines show the monthly amount of support based on the payor’s annual guideline income and the number of children you have. For example, a parent earning $85,000.00 per year who has two children would pay $1,314.00 in monthly child support (see below). It is a standardized system that helps ensure fairness and consistency.

In a shared parenting arrangement, where each of parent has the children at least 40% of the time, the calculation changes slightly. Each parent’s table amount is calculated separately, and then the two amounts are set off against one another so that only one net payment is made. In practice, this method is almost always used, and judges rarely depart from it.

Special or Extraordinary Expenses

Beyond the basic table amount, parents also share special or extraordinary expenses, often called section 7 expenses. These include things like childcare, some extracurricular activities, medical costs, or post secondary expenses. In mediation, we look at each parent’s income and determine the proportionate share. The software I use handles this easily, and I display the results visually so everyone can follow along.

How We Calculate Support in Mediation

I use professional calculation software that applies the Guidelines accurately and accounts for complexities like fluctuating income, bonuses or commissions, high earning parents, or shared parenting schedules. In mediation, everything is transparent. You see the calculations as they update, and I explain what each number means so there are no surprises.

We also spend time determining each parent’s guideline income. This is not always the same as what appears on your tax return. Guideline income looks forward at what you reasonably expect to earn over the next twelve months. We talk about any changes in employment, overtime patterns, or other factors that might affect your income. The goal is to make a fair and realistic estimate.

Why Mediation Makes These Conversations Easier

Talking about money during separation can feel overwhelming, especially if communication is strained. Mediation provides structure and calm and I keep the process visual because it helps reduce confusion. When you can see the numbers and understand how they were calculated, decision making becomes much easier. You also have the support of a family lawyer who can explain the law and help you apply it to your situation.

Final Thoughts

Child support is one of the most straightforward parts of a separation, and mediation is an excellent way to work through it. The law provides a clear roadmap. My job is to help you understand that roadmap, apply it fairly, and create a plan that supports your children.

If you need help calculating child support, creating a parenting plan, or updating your agreement, I would be happy to help guide you through the process.

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